I need a good cry - woman bent over her knees sad
midlife, personal growth

For Crying Out Loud, I Need a Good Cry!

I started writing an inspirational go-for-your-dreams post because much of the time I do feel inspired… but you know what? I’m not feeling it today. Today, I feel like I need a good cry. I haven’t yet (and I’m NOT a crier) but, hey, the day is still young. And so what? Maybe a good cry is exactly what we need some days. By fifty, the secret is out. Life isn’t always rainbows and unicorns. Things don’t always go our way. Life doesn’t always play out the way we’d like…

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Over Fifty is Flipping Fantastic Birthday Cupcakes
midlife, personal growth

Five Big Reasons Why Being Over Fifty is Flipping Fantastic!

Ok, so I’ll admit there are some bummers about being over fifty, but let’s not focus on those today. Instead, let’s celebrate five big reasons it’s flipping fantastic to be over fifty! 1. Clarity. We are now at the top of the hill where we can see more clearly the stuff that matters in life and the crap that doesn’t. We’re old enough to have lost loved ones and to have watched friends suffer through diseases, divorces and tragedies. We clearly understand that with a few decades of life left…

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I need help spelled out in letter blocks
midlife, personal growth

The guilt and shame of the words “I need help”

I’m sure we can all agree that there are so many times in life when we want to scream I NEED HELP. Not a single one of us had made it to midlife without someone’s help here or there along the way. So why do so many of us feel that saying I need help is a failure of some kind? We are raised from childhood for the end game of becoming self-sufficient. We were told to think for ourselves. Choose for ourselves. Do for ourselves. A big part of…

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Liberation Zone - Life After Fifty
midlife, personal growth

Life After Fifty; Welcome to the Judgement-Free Liberation Zone

Life after fifty definitely comes with some downers but over all, it’s time to celebrate moving into the judgement-free liberation zone! There’s something sort of magical that happens when we get past fifty. We start to gradually shed the pressure to be more. More successful, more popular, more fun, more accomplished, more perfect. We ramp up to this point our entire lives – always trying to be more. Now that we’re here and we realize how many years have gone by with us working so hard and trying so desperately…

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Learning to Let Go - The Big Shut Out
midlife, parenting, personal growth

Learning to Embrace The Big Shut Out

One of the hardest things about our kids growing up and becoming independent is learning to let go and embracing The Big Shut Out. It’s not easy to go from being intimately involved in (and even responsible for) their every need for at least their first decade, to having to get in line for a moment with them when they are teens. As they mature and start to make decisions for themselves, we instinctually back away, a little bit at a time, to give them space to learn and to make…

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Finding Purpose Can Help Fight Feeling Down
aging parents, midlife, personal growth

Finding Purpose Can Help Fight Feeling Down

Everyone has times when they’re feeling down – that’s normal. But to feel down more often than not over a prolonged period of time is not ok.  So how can we pull ourselves up and out of those blues? Purpose, true and authentic purpose, is one way that can help fight feeling down. I’m not suggesting it fixes clinical depression. I’m not a psychologist and I wouldn’t dare suggest how depression should be treated. I’m talking about the sadness we feel on those rainy foggy days (like today if you’re…

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