Someone you love is hurting
aging parents, parenting, personal growth

When Someone You Love is Hurting, You Hurt

When someone you love is hurting – your child, partner, friend – you feel the pain too. And you’ll stop at nothing to either make it go away or somehow figure out how to fix it. There is no greater urge than to protect our kids and loved ones. It takes root from love, but it grows far beyond and is an amazing thing. What’s also remarkable is how you forget about everything else when you’re on a mission to fix their hurt. I’m exhausted and coming down with something. Maybe…

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Beat Down Negativity
midlife, personal growth

Beat Down the Inner Voice of Negativity

I have a pesky little voice of negativity in the back of my mind talking smack to me. I’d like to duct tape the mouth of that beeatch who resides in my head and spouts nasty, mean and hurtful negativity about me into my ear regularly. I can’t be alone here. I know there have to other women dealing with the inner voice of self-doubt and insecurity too. I wonder when she moved in? I don’t remember hearing that voice beat me down when I was nine years old or…

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Feisty Heroine in Menopause
midlife, personal growth

Can We Agree to Be Disagreeable?

I’m just being real. More and more. Just doing me. Are you like me and finding that midlife is making you feel less and less willing to fake being agreeable? It is an oversimplification (and also unfair) to chalk it up to hormones (or lack thereof). I promise you it’s not entirely menopause. I feel like there is a gravitational force yanking me in different directions. I can go the entire rotation from melancholy to gleeful, all in a day – sometimes all in an hour. And regardless of my…

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a menopause midlife decluttering
midlife, personal growth

Less Clutter, More Joy

Maybe it’s part of a midlife crisis, but I am hell-bent on less clutter, more joy in my life these days! I have never been happy about the clutter, but recently it’s been bothering me more than ever. It’s kind of like the polar opposite of the “nesting” instinct many of us felt when we were preparing for the arrival of a baby. Maybe this is an instinctual cleaning out of the soon-to-be-empty nest? I don’t think that I am de-cluttering for “the end” of life (I’m not that dramatic!),…

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main image for life after fifty page
midlife, personal growth

So? What’s real? What’s true? What’s next?

I’m waking up and it’s Chapter Two. In my “life after fifty”, I now occasionally catch sight of daylight and realize there is a shift happening in my life. But what do I do about these questions I’m searching for the answers to? I feel like the first 25 years of my life happened to me, rather than by me. I guess there were choices, but looking back now, it feels like the choices were made for me. I never really felt like I was making decisions for myself. I…

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