Liberation Zone - Life After Fifty

Life After Fifty; Welcome to the Judgement-Free Liberation Zone

Life after fifty definitely comes with some downers but over all, it’s time to celebrate moving into the judgement-free liberation zone! There’s something sort of magical that happens when we get past fifty. We start to gradually shed the pressure to be more. More successful, more popular, more fun, more accomplished, more perfect. We ramp up to this point our entire lives – always trying to be more. Now that we’re here and we realize how many years have gone by with us working so hard and trying so desperately…

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Learning to Let Go - The Big Shut Out

Learning to Embrace The Big Shut Out

One of the hardest things about our kids growing up and becoming independent is learning to let go and embracing The Big Shut Out. It’s not easy to go from being intimately involved in (and even responsible for) their every need for at least their first decade, to having to get in line for a moment with them when they are teens. As they mature and start to make decisions for themselves, we instinctually back away, a little bit at a time, to give them space to learn and to make…

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Finding Purpose Can Help Fight Feeling Down

Finding Purpose Can Help Fight Feeling Down

Everyone has times when they’re feeling down – that’s normal. But to feel down more often than not over a prolonged period of time is not ok.  So how can we pull ourselves up and out of those blues? Purpose, true and authentic purpose, is one way that can help fight feeling down. I’m not suggesting it fixes clinical depression. I’m not a psychologist and I wouldn’t dare suggest how depression should be treated. I’m talking about the sadness we feel on those rainy foggy days (like today if you’re…

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mindset - what could go right

Mindset: What happens if we focus on what could go right?

What could happen in our lives if we could steer our mindset to focus on what could go right instead of what might go wrong? Even those of us who consider ourselves eternal optimists (yours truly included) can still have boat-loads of fear crippling us and preventing us from personal growth and from achieving our goals. Growth happens when we have the courage to push through our fears and worries to get to the other side. What gets presented to us on the news is an stream of mostly the…

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midlife finding more purpose

Midlife: A Stop on the Path to More

It’s called midlife because there is a second half of life to live. In years, our second half may not end up being equal to our first, but in terms of personal growth and satisfaction, it can be. In fact, it can be more. It’s up to us to make that happen. Our second half of life might include pursuing new (or old) dreams, interests, passions or perhaps even newfound purpose helping others. No one can give us a map for our journey, it’s our path and it’s unique to…

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Good Friends in Midlife

Never underestimate the importance of good friends in your life

Having good friends in midlife is so important. Even though many of us have spouses or significant others, nothing takes the place of good friends. You know who they are – the ones who make us feel that we’re not alone in whatever we’re going through. The friends who have our back (literally, they’ll tell us if there’s a hole in our pants) – our peeps, our tribe, our squad. The ones who reach out when it seems we’ve gone M.I.A. I especially mean the few friends who know us…

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